I’m watching blood trickle out in a steady stream, flowing down the curved contour of my breast and marking my torso. The crimson liquid bridges the realm from inside to outside, flowing from the large, mutant opening of my lump that resembles a miniature exposed brain. I notice a slight rancid smell of decomposition which quickens my heart rate so I distract myself by watching the flow. I’m in awe of how it keeps moving, assisted by force and gravity, into the bathwater, tinging it a slightly amber colour.
When we built our home, a big bathtub seated in an open space was at the top of my wish list. I meticulously laid out every tile surrounding the tub with slate, and we crafted a step into the tub from an open-faced timber slab. Ammonite fossils adorned the tiles, connecting me to ancient times and adding a personal touch to my sanctuary.
My evenings involve soaking in water that’s a little hotter than initially comfortable. I love letting the heat sear away the residue of the day, watching my skin redden against the wet heat. Perhaps it’s a Japanese trait ingrained in me from a culture that appreciates bath time as a ritual for rejuvenation, relaxation and cleanliness.
In Japan, public bathing in bathhouses with an assortment of soaking pools of various temperatures and qualities is woven into the culture. It’s a communal activity that fosters connection through the appreciation of a therapeutic soak. Both Sento, public bathhouses found in most neighbourhoods, and Onsen, which are fed by natural hot springs and often feature beautiful outdoor soaking pools, involve etiquettes and rituals. These are based on respect and tradition.
Going to the sento with my family stirs memories of early childhood, a time before I became self-conscious. I would alternate between going into the ladies’ side with Mama and the other side with Da until I reached double digits in age. Upon entering the bathhouse, I was greeted by the familiar fusion of aromas—mineral-rich water, herbs, soaps, and beauty products. An invitation to wash away the day and relax with strangers, buck naked.
At the enterance, there was a small booth where the person on duty collected our fee, which was a few hundred yen at the time, equivalent to about three Canadian dollars. The person was seated in the center of the division as the sole onlooker on both sides. My mom joked that whoever applied for that job must like looking at naked bodies. Naked bodies were a source of curiosity and quiet amusement for me.
I had no qualms about stripping down to reveal the stronger traits of my Caucasian DNA. I was accustomed to being stared at, even when clothed, simply because I didn’t look purely Japanese. At that time, with my spindly long legs and flat chest, I felt no shame and considered myself Japanese through and through, having been born and raised in the Land of the Rising Sun.
On the men’s side, It was amusing to observe the assortment of uncircumcised appendages of various shapes and sizes, though I made a point not to stare. Da, with his pale moon-white upturned arse perched on his long carrot legs, Scottish red hair, and his mushroom-tipped ding dong, drew most of the attention before they noticed the half-breed of the opposite sex in tow.
We knew the public bathing etiquette well and did our preliminary wash using the deep basin of luke warm water at the entrance of the large tiled bathing zone. Moving on, we selected our bathing stall from the lineup, each equipped with a seat, mirror, small basin, showerhead, tap, shampoo, conditioner, and body soap. Before sitting down, we ensured to clean the low seat of the plastic stool thoroughly. We proceeded with our detailed scrub down before choosing our first pool to melt into.
There are warm baths, hot baths, even hotter baths, herbal medicinal baths, detox baths, chilly baths, electric baths, and even outdoor baths at most onsens. I used to dip my toes and maybe even submerge my whole foot in the electric bath before chickening out, remembering the old lady who had a heart attack believing she got electrocuted.
Bath time for me is a ritual carried on from my childhood. I was gutted when I was told I could no longer soak in the bath—unless I poured a half bath and sat upright so my breast would float safely above the water. I couldn’t risk another staph infection from bacteria lurking in still water. Begrudgingly, I took to showers because it was too much of a tease to get in the bath without being able to slink back into a full relaxation pose, submerged, with my outstretched legs and heels perched on the opposite end. But after an exhausting day, I opted to at least give half my body the release it needed and witness the extent of my bleed.
My ongoing practice is to create a perspective that supports a harmonious state of mind. I felt mixed emotions of wonder and alarm about the volume of blood coming out of me. My Da, a doctor of Japanese acupuncture told me that Shaketsu or bloodletting is a practice to release blood out of a blocked meridian. A medicinal treatment to maintain health so I decided that is what my body is doing all on its own.
I remind myself that living in Canada, with readily available healthcare, is truly a gift. When I’m ready to get out, I call out to my husband for help to avoid getting blood everywhere. On the vanity across from the bathtub sits a basket filled with saline for cleaning, packets of antiseptic wipes, gauze, skin prep pads, blood clotting gauze, antibacterial silver mesh, and plenty of high-quality bandages designed for serious wounds. These were all provided to me for free by the local wound clinic, along with instructions from a nurse on how to care for ‘my little exposed brain on my boob.’ I can get more of whatever I need for as long as I need it. Today, I choose to be patient, curious, thankful, and keep my sense of humour intact. Today, I choose to count my blessings.
LESSON: MAINTAIN THE ESSENCE OF SACRED RITUAL EVEN IF IT HAS TO BE MODIFIED.
In Kyoto, Mama pregnant with me, and Da in his geta (traditional Japanese wooden sandals) and Scottish beard, which he kept until we immigrated to Canada.
LESSONS FROM MY LUMP 